Coarse and imprudent domestic management style is the most indigent most use without the person that teach wisdom. Least of all the savage of become civilized and the stupiddest farmer can think of to use hit a few times and scold a few to serve as penalty. 　　 ----(flower) Spencer

(educational example)

Discipline of one boy small off year full the boxing foot that tastes father, endure leather belt to smoke even, the reason is him merely " too good move " . Because,its father thinks the child does not change is " hit not quite still " , its mother thinks " had not heard domestic swat child is wrong still " . Some teenager that big city surveys street of billow of 1000 distinguished personages, among them 41% run away from home because of be beaten and scold by parents. Investigation makes clear, the parent that has 30%-50% at present is with beating and scold " education " method.

(Think with the analysis)

Actually, "Dozen " can make the child domestic temporarily only, and cannot from go up at all solve any problems, the nature that meets screwy child finally. Beat and scold and comminatory child, one kind may be to make the child forms the disposition with narrow, self-abased, timid, dishonest breadth of mind, still one is plant may be to make nucleon becomes very irratable, to taking a beating not worry at all, become have revolt consciousness, advocate the person with violent, cranky disposition.

Spencer once had said British philosopher: "Coarse and imprudent domestic management style is the most indigent most use without the person that teach wisdom. Least of all the savage of become civilized and the stupiddest farmer can think of to use hit a few times and scold a few to serve as penalty. " the mankind is entered " civilized times " the history that already had a few chiliad, from " tie knots begin to remember things " to contemporary computer; From " goddess in the moon approachs a month " fokelore goes up to the sky to the rocket, change quickly of ascensive it may be said. Why our domestic education still puts the part that takes move and savage to place on a par!

(Family education proposal)

What some do father and mother always is to be his to the child beat and scold behavior to make exculpatory, it seems that all is opposite of the child coercing is for the child. Actually, are we for the child really? Do we think one-up? Do we consider the practical effect of own behavior? If the child illuminates what we say to do, did we get a kind of ego is satisfied? We are to want to do a good parent really, the desire that still disregards him child and act? If we check our motive constantly, our behavior is gotten with respect to meeting advisability much.

Parents often should tell him: Do not force the child to do anything. Correct behavior is encouragement result, is not compulsive result. We can use wisdom, skill and humour to encourage the child and us to cooperate. The fact proves, cooperating with the child is delightful. No matter the angle from parents still is the angle from the child, cooperative process is the process of an each other understanding, harmonious, improvement. Once we understood this reason, can apply a lot of clever methods to replace force, exercise influence, score the success that expect is less than from which.
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